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Secure to Love Again™
Secure to Love Again™ is a space for women healing after heartbreak, emotional disconnection, or anxious attachment. These posts explore nervous system healing, self-worth, and what it takes to truly feel safe in love again. Whether you're fresh out of a breakup or rebuilding after years of self-abandonment, this series supports your journey back to wholeness — and into secure, authentic love.


No One Taught Us How to Be a Good Friend.
We were never taught how to build lasting, emotionally healthy friendships. Learn what makes a good friend, how to deepen connection, and why quality matters more than quantity.

Krista Lachapelle
May 193 min read


How to Stop Chasing Love, and Start Feeling Secure
Explore why needing, controlling, or chasing love doesn’t create true connection. Learn how to stop over-functioning and start building secure, mutual relationships.

Krista Lachapelle
May 193 min read


Why Assertiveness, Flexibility & Curiosity Build Lasting Relationships
Discover how assertiveness, flexibility, and curiosity create secure, emotionally healthy relationships. Learn why this powerful trio builds trust, safety, and lasting love.

Krista Lachapelle
May 193 min read


How to Stop Catastrophizing in Relationships
Learn how catastrophizing damages relationships and why anxious spirals after conflict are common. Get tools to reframe, reconnect, and build secure love.

Krista Lachapelle
May 194 min read


The Emotional Labor Many Women Carry Alone in Relationships
Why are women so often the emotional glue in relationships, planning, initiating, fixing, trying, until they finally burn out? Here’s what happens when connection becomes one-sided, and how real partnership can begin again.

Krista Lachapelle
May 173 min read


What to Do When Your Partner Feels Emotionally Distant
Many relationships suffer quietly when one partner checks out emotionally. This blog explores why distance happens, why no one talks about it, and what to do when your connection feels numb, quiet, or lost.

Krista Lachapelle
May 173 min read


How to Reconnect When Your Relationship Feels Distant
Disconnection in a relationship doesn’t mean it’s over. It’s a sign to slow down, turn toward each other, and begin again. Here's how to find your way back before it feels too late.

Krista Lachapelle
May 163 min read


How to Rebuild Connection When Your Marriage Feels Cold
Feeling emotionally distant from your partner? Learn how to rebuild intimacy, trust, and emotional safety in your relationship using attachment-informed strategies and simple, powerful reconnection tools.

Krista Lachapelle
May 163 min read


Why Men Stay After an Affair, and What It Really Means
Why do so many men stay in unhappy marriages even after falling for someone else? Learn the psychological and emotional reasons behind this common dynamic and how we can build a culture of emotional maturity, self-trust, and integrity in relationships.

Krista Lachapelle
May 164 min read


Divorce Isn’t a Failure. How We Built a New Kind of Family.
Divorce doesn’t mean your family failed. This blog explores how to redefine motherhood, build peaceful co-parenting dynamics, and create a new kind of love , one rooted in truth, integrity, and lasting connection.

Krista Lachapelle
May 153 min read


Grieving the Family After Divorce, And Still Moving Forward
Even after divorce, the family you built doesn’t just disappear, it lives on in your memories, your body, and your heart. This blog explores the invisible grief of letting go, and what it means to honor the family you had while creating something new.

Krista Lachapelle
May 153 min read


Why Leaving Isn’t Always Healing. And What Comes After
Leaving the wrong relationship doesn’t always lead straight to healing. For many of us, it leads into the spiral, where old wounds resurface and familiar pain disguises itself as passion. This is what it looks like to live out your trauma wiring before you learn how to rewire it. And why that doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human.

Krista Lachapelle
May 153 min read


Lonely in a Good Marriage, And What Finally Made Me Leave
Not all marriages end in betrayal or chaos. Some end in quiet grief, the kind that builds when you’ve smiled through the emptiness for too long. This is the story of a relationship that looked perfect on paper but left me starving for connection. And what it means to finally choose truth over appearances, even when the world thinks you already have everything.

Krista Lachapelle
May 153 min read


How I Stopped Abandoning Myself After Years of Self-Betrayal
The moment I stopped abandoning myself didn’t look like a breakthrough, it looked like stillness. This blog explores the quiet turning point when healing begins not in chasing love, but in choosing your own worth. For anyone ready to return to their secure self.

Krista Lachapelle
May 152 min read


Why Moving On After Divorce Feels So Hard, And What Helps
Moving on after separation or divorce can feel paralyzing, not because you're weak, but because your nervous system is still wired for safety, familiarity, and fear of loss. Here’s why it’s scary, and how to move forward with self-compassion and support.

Krista Lachapelle
May 153 min read


Reinventing Connection: Why Midlife Is the Most Powerful Time to Rewrite Your Relationships
Midlife isn’t a dead end; it’s a sacred turning point. Discover how your 50s, 60s, and beyond offer the ultimate opportunity to reinvent your relationship with yourself and others. It’s not too late. It’s just the beginning.

Krista Lachapelle
May 152 min read


Is It Chemistry, or a Wound? The Je Ne Sais Quoi Effect
Attraction can feel powerful; but not all sparks are safe. Learn how to tell the difference between true connection and trauma-based chemistry with this grounded guide.

Krista Lachapelle
May 143 min read


Why I Combine Counselling and Coaching. And Why It Works
For years, I worked with clients who had done all the “right” things: therapy, self-help, growth work, and still felt stuck. What was missing? Integration and forward motion. That’s why I combine counselling and coaching: to help you heal the past and build what’s next. Because real change doesn’t come from insight alone, it comes from feeling safe enough to move forward. At Beacon Hill, we do both.

Krista Lachapelle
May 92 min read


Love Like a Rescue Dog: Healing, Trust, and Choosing Love Again
Rescue dogs don’t love easily. They’ve been through things. But when they do choose to love you, it’s with a heart that has known fear, loss, and pain, and still leans in. Just like us. This post is for every woman learning to trust again, who’s been hurt but still has hope. Because loving like a rescue dog means loving bravely, not perfectly.

Krista Lachapelle
May 52 min read


🌿 Why Love Feels So Hard. And Why It’s Not Your Fault
If you’ve ever found yourself fighting for connection, overthinking every text, or giving too much just to feel loved, it’s not because you’re bad at love. It’s because your nervous system learned that love could feel dangerous. You don’t need to be fixed. You need safety, self-trust, and love that feels like home. I wrote more about this on the blog today. 🌿

Krista Lachapelle
Apr 292 min read
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