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Becoming
This category is about the quiet, courageous work of becoming who you really are — beyond the roles, the conditioning, and the pain. From identity shifts after divorce to rediscovering your voice, these posts explore the transformation that happens when you stop abandoning yourself and start coming home. Healing, reinvention, and the journey back to your whole, worthy, powerful self — it all lives here.
No One Taught Us How to Be a Good Friend.
We were never taught how to build lasting, emotionally healthy friendships. Learn what makes a good friend, how to deepen connection, and why quality matters more than quantity.
Krista Lachapelle
May 193 min read
How to Stop Chasing Love, and Start Feeling Secure
Explore why needing, controlling, or chasing love doesn’t create true connection. Learn how to stop over-functioning and start building secure, mutual relationships.
Krista Lachapelle
May 193 min read
Why Assertiveness, Flexibility & Curiosity Build Lasting Relationships
Discover how assertiveness, flexibility, and curiosity create secure, emotionally healthy relationships. Learn why this powerful trio builds trust, safety, and lasting love.
Krista Lachapelle
May 193 min read
How to Stop Catastrophizing in Relationships
Learn how catastrophizing damages relationships and why anxious spirals after conflict are common. Get tools to reframe, reconnect, and build secure love.
Krista Lachapelle
May 194 min read
What Emotional Tethering Really Is, and Why It Hurts So Much
He said you were the one, until he went back to what was familiar. Emotional tethering keeps you stuck in false hope. Here’s why some people choose safety over depth, and how to break free from the confusion.
Krista Lachapelle
May 183 min read
The Emotional Labor Many Women Carry Alone in Relationships
Why are women so often the emotional glue in relationships, planning, initiating, fixing, trying, until they finally burn out? Here’s what happens when connection becomes one-sided, and how real partnership can begin again.
Krista Lachapelle
May 173 min read
What to Do When Your Partner Feels Emotionally Distant
Many relationships suffer quietly when one partner checks out emotionally. This blog explores why distance happens, why no one talks about it, and what to do when your connection feels numb, quiet, or lost.
Krista Lachapelle
May 173 min read
How to Reconnect When Your Relationship Feels Distant
Disconnection in a relationship doesn’t mean it’s over. It’s a sign to slow down, turn toward each other, and begin again. Here's how to find your way back before it feels too late.
Krista Lachapelle
May 163 min read
Why Men Stay After an Affair, and What It Really Means
Why do so many men stay in unhappy marriages even after falling for someone else? Learn the psychological and emotional reasons behind this common dynamic and how we can build a culture of emotional maturity, self-trust, and integrity in relationships.
Krista Lachapelle
May 164 min read
Divorce Isn’t a Failure. How We Built a New Kind of Family.
Divorce doesn’t mean your family failed. This blog explores how to redefine motherhood, build peaceful co-parenting dynamics, and create a new kind of love , one rooted in truth, integrity, and lasting connection.
Krista Lachapelle
May 153 min read
Grieving the Family After Divorce, And Still Moving Forward
Even after divorce, the family you built doesn’t just disappear, it lives on in your memories, your body, and your heart. This blog explores the invisible grief of letting go, and what it means to honor the family you had while creating something new.
Krista Lachapelle
May 153 min read
Why Leaving Isn’t Always Healing. And What Comes After
Leaving the wrong relationship doesn’t always lead straight to healing. For many of us, it leads into the spiral, where old wounds resurface and familiar pain disguises itself as passion. This is what it looks like to live out your trauma wiring before you learn how to rewire it. And why that doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human.
Krista Lachapelle
May 153 min read
Lonely in a Good Marriage, And What Finally Made Me Leave
Not all marriages end in betrayal or chaos. Some end in quiet grief, the kind that builds when you’ve smiled through the emptiness for too long. This is the story of a relationship that looked perfect on paper but left me starving for connection. And what it means to finally choose truth over appearances, even when the world thinks you already have everything.
Krista Lachapelle
May 153 min read
How I Stopped Abandoning Myself After Years of Self-Betrayal
The moment I stopped abandoning myself didn’t look like a breakthrough, it looked like stillness. This blog explores the quiet turning point when healing begins not in chasing love, but in choosing your own worth. For anyone ready to return to their secure self.
Krista Lachapelle
May 152 min read
Why Moving On After Divorce Feels So Hard, And What Helps
Moving on after separation or divorce can feel paralyzing, not because you're weak, but because your nervous system is still wired for safety, familiarity, and fear of loss. Here’s why it’s scary, and how to move forward with self-compassion and support.
Krista Lachapelle
May 153 min read
Reinventing Connection: Why Midlife Is the Most Powerful Time to Rewrite Your Relationships
Midlife isn’t a dead end; it’s a sacred turning point. Discover how your 50s, 60s, and beyond offer the ultimate opportunity to reinvent your relationship with yourself and others. It’s not too late. It’s just the beginning.
Krista Lachapelle
May 152 min read
Invisible No More: Why Midlife Women Feel Unseen, and How We Reclaim Connection
Many women in midlife experience a painful sense of invisibility: in relationships, at work, even in their own homes. This blog explores why that happens, what it means, and how we can reconnect to visibility, value, and authentic connection from the inside out.
Krista Lachapelle
May 153 min read
What If the Relationship Problem Isn’t Them? It’s the Story You’re Telling?
Learn how Byron Katie’s “The Work” can help you create healthier relationships by questioning the stories you tell yourself about others. This blog explores practical steps for applying self-inquiry to romantic and family dynamics and how to integrate this tool into attachment-based healing, coaching, and inner child work.
Krista Lachapelle
May 153 min read
The Sisterhood That Saved Me: What Chosen Family Really Means
When I moved to Vancouver, I knew no one. But within days, a group of women from around the world welcomed me like family. No small talk. No cliques. Just presence, laughter, and open arms. It reminded me that real friendship still exists, and we can all learn from how expats build it.
Krista Lachapelle
May 153 min read
Is It Chemistry, or a Wound? The Je Ne Sais Quoi Effect
Attraction can feel powerful; but not all sparks are safe. Learn how to tell the difference between true connection and trauma-based chemistry with this grounded guide.
Krista Lachapelle
May 143 min read
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