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Secure Love
Secure Love explores what it means to build real, grounded connection, starting from within. From attachment theory to emotional safety, this series dives into how we create love that’s healthy, reciprocal, and lasting. Whether you're healing old wounds, deepening an existing relationship, or navigating dating with self-worth, these posts are your guide to love that feels safe and true.
No One Taught Us How to Be a Good Friend.
We were never taught how to build lasting, emotionally healthy friendships. Learn what makes a good friend, how to deepen connection, and why quality matters more than quantity.
Krista Lachapelle
May 193 min read
Why Assertiveness, Flexibility & Curiosity Build Lasting Relationships
Discover how assertiveness, flexibility, and curiosity create secure, emotionally healthy relationships. Learn why this powerful trio builds trust, safety, and lasting love.
Krista Lachapelle
May 193 min read
How to Stop Catastrophizing in Relationships
Learn how catastrophizing damages relationships and why anxious spirals after conflict are common. Get tools to reframe, reconnect, and build secure love.
Krista Lachapelle
May 194 min read
The Emotional Labor Many Women Carry Alone in Relationships
Why are women so often the emotional glue in relationships, planning, initiating, fixing, trying, until they finally burn out? Here’s what happens when connection becomes one-sided, and how real partnership can begin again.
Krista Lachapelle
May 173 min read
What to Do When Your Partner Feels Emotionally Distant
Many relationships suffer quietly when one partner checks out emotionally. This blog explores why distance happens, why no one talks about it, and what to do when your connection feels numb, quiet, or lost.
Krista Lachapelle
May 173 min read
How to Reconnect When Your Relationship Feels Distant
Disconnection in a relationship doesn’t mean it’s over. It’s a sign to slow down, turn toward each other, and begin again. Here's how to find your way back before it feels too late.
Krista Lachapelle
May 163 min read
How to Rebuild Connection When Your Marriage Feels Cold
Feeling emotionally distant from your partner? Learn how to rebuild intimacy, trust, and emotional safety in your relationship using attachment-informed strategies and simple, powerful reconnection tools.
Krista Lachapelle
May 163 min read
Why Men Stay After an Affair, and What It Really Means
Why do so many men stay in unhappy marriages even after falling for someone else? Learn the psychological and emotional reasons behind this common dynamic and how we can build a culture of emotional maturity, self-trust, and integrity in relationships.
Krista Lachapelle
May 164 min read
What If the Relationship Problem Isn’t Them? It’s the Story You’re Telling?
Learn how Byron Katie’s “The Work” can help you create healthier relationships by questioning the stories you tell yourself about others. This blog explores practical steps for applying self-inquiry to romantic and family dynamics and how to integrate this tool into attachment-based healing, coaching, and inner child work.
Krista Lachapelle
May 153 min read
The Rise of AI Companionship, and the Crisis of Human Disconnection
People are turning to AI for connection, not just convenience. Explore how this trend reveals a growing crisis of loneliness, especially for boys, and what real secure attachment offers instead.
Krista Lachapelle
May 154 min read
Why Attachment Isn’t Just Personal, It’s Psychosocial
Attachment isn’t just about your past. Learn how your inner world and the social systems around you shape connection, and how healing must address both.
Krista Lachapelle
May 143 min read
Texting Isn’t Just Texting. It’s Emotional Energy
Texting is how we talk now, and how we build emotional connection. Here's why thoughtful messaging matters in modern relationships, and how to do it with clarity and care.
Krista Lachapelle
May 112 min read
What My Neurodivergent Son Taught Me About Connection
What if neurodivergence held the key to secure attachment? A raw, thoughtful reflection on ghosting, presence, and emotional safety, from a mother and counsellor's heart.
Krista Lachapelle
May 92 min read
What Each Attachment Style Should Look for in a Relationship (Including Friendships)
Not all relationships feel safe, especially when your nervous system is wired for survival, not connection. This post explores what each attachment style should actually look for in relationships, including friendships. Because healing isn’t about finding perfect people. It’s about finding relationships that help you feel calm, seen, and safe enough to grow.
Krista Lachapelle
Apr 173 min read
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